You must unlearn what you have learned.
Master Yoda was a master for a reason. He knew his shit. That backwards talking little green man had some knowledge to drop, and this quote is one that I've been thinking about a lot lately. Yoda says it while training Luke on Dagobah. And while the rest of us may not be going off to defeat our fathers in a centuries old intergalactic battle, there's still something there for us.
How many times have we had to "unlearn" something to learn something new? In elementary school we were taught there were no numbers below zero, then we had to be taught there were in fact, negative numbers, and then imaginary numbers. I don't know what comes after that, because I flunked out of higher math and stopped taking match classes all together. The point is - we're already used to "unlearning" things.
So, why is it so hard to "unlearn" the negative things we think about each other? About ourselves? I've made it an effort to "unlearn" the shitty things my inner critic has taught me about myself. I am not fat. I am not too loud. I am not unattractive to the types of men I like. I am in a constant state of learning new things and unlearning old things that no longer serve me. I hope you can join me.
Until next time,
xo